A very good decision

Anne at EconoMom wrote this week about the best decisions she’s ever made (as judged by maximized utility, or happiness).  She suggests making a list and sharing it with your spouse.  She then writes:

"Of course, you know you have to put ‘marrying my spouse’ at number one on the list, which is where it would be anyway, Rick, in case you’re wondering."

Nine years ago today, T and I got married.  And yes, it was the best decision I’ve ever made.  He’s my friend, my lover, my partner, my co-parent.  He makes me laugh, gives me backrubs, and believes in me more than I believe in myself.  Whatever life throws at us, I’m very glad to have him at my side.  Happy anniversary, sweetie. 

The part that blows my mind is that T and I started dating when we were 18.   I feel like I barely know the adolescent I was then.  T’s grown up a lot too.  And yet, we somehow had the luck or judgment to find each other and to stay together.  It’s not the life pattern I would every have predicted for myself, but it’s worked out very well for us.

For the record, my other nine top utility maximizing decisions, in chronological order, are:

  1. Taking David Montgomery’s American Labor History classes.  They changed my life.
  2. Not going to law school.
  3. Taking my current job.
  4. Taking up running and joining the Penguin Brigade. 
  5. Buying our house when we did.
  6. Having D.
  7. Going to Africa with my family, even though it meant taking 14+ hour plane rides with a 20 month old.
  8. Having N.
  9. Starting this blog. 


Light blogging ahead this weekend; we’ve got a guest staying with us.  She’s a good friend from college who I don’t see very often, and I probably won’t take the time to write while she’s here.

5 Responses to “A very good decision”

  1. Fred Vincy Says:

    Mary and I got engaged when we were 22 and 21. As we head toward 40, I often have the same feeling of amazement at how right we got it.

  2. Cynical Mom Says:

    I love that this blog made the list! I’ve really enjoyed your blog since you started it, you broaden my horizons. I usually get my news only from the Daily Show ;-)

  3. LPF Says:

    I think the interesting thing about such a list is that it’s viewing life in hindsight. Moving to DC was, without doubt, one of the best things that Mr P and I could have done; it will take another few years before I can see if leaving DC will eventually make the list.

  4. Scott Butki Says:

    Congrats on the anniversary and I love the list.

  5. Nan Says:

    Congratulations to you and T, Elizabeth! Will have to think about my top 10 list…

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