This is the post I started last Tuesday, and then didn’t have the heart for. Since it was the day that the Census Bureau releases the latest poverty statistics, I’m discussing two books about growing up poor.
First up is The Prize Winner of Defiance, Ohio: How My Mother Raised 10 Kids on 25 Words or Less, by Terry Ryan. It’s her memoir of how her mother, Evelyn Ryan, kept her family fed and housed by entering dozens of entries in every possible contest, winning everything from televisions and washer dryers to shopping sprees, trips and a new car (which they sold to pay the bills). Mrs. Ryan had a determinedly optimistic outlook, which Terry emulates in this book, so she focuses on her mother’s determination, creativity, and humor, rather than dwelling on her father’s alcoholism and violence, or on the indignities, major and minor, of their persistent poverty. The closest she comes to complaining is when discussing how the nuns who taught at the parochial school she attended registered her for all remedial classes when it was time to enroll in high school, in spite of her excellent grades.
Evelyn Ryan is an amazing character, and her story would have been a terrific magazine article, but the material runs a little thin by the end of the book. The book has a great premise, but no plot or character development. At the beginning, Evelyn Ryan is a plucky heroine who wins contests, and at the end she’s still a plucky heroine who wins contests. There’s a movie of this book coming out at the end of the month; based on the trailer, it looks like they’ve reframed the story as about Evelyn’s defiance of her bullying husband.
The second book is the provocatively titled Welfare Brat: a memoir, by Mary Childers. Childers writes about the endless contradictions of her childhood, of loving her mother and not wanting to be anything like her, of fitting in neither among the kids in the gifted class (where she stuck out for being poor) nor among the kids in her neighborhood (where she stuck out for caring about school), of living in decaying neighborhoods where all the other white families were fleeing, but also of taking advantage of her white privilege to get department store jobs. She writes of hiding the money she had earned so that her mother couldn’t take it, but also of giving up a birthday celebration so that there would be cake for her little sister.
Perhaps the most heartfelt passages in Welfare Brat are where Childers talks about her dreams of going to college, but also of her depths of ignorance about it. Desperate to get away from her mothers’ overcrowded apartment, she’s horrified at the prospect of sharing a dorm room. She doesn’t understand that "full scholarship" still usually means loans, and has no money to pay for the incidentals that colleges assume are too minor to mention. Her family doesn’t understand why she’d want to go to college, and even her friends think she should just get a job. After her guidance counselor pulls strings, she winds up at a "mediocre community college":
"Even in college, most people aren’t excited about ideas. Outside of class I’m teased for obsessing about my difficulties finishing a paper comparing Martin Buber’s notion of the ‘I-Thou’ relationship to Picasso’s representations of how we are three- and four-faced, and thus slated for prismatic complexity interacting with others. Several teachers drop hints that I would have no trouble transfering to a better school. When I explain my scholarship and aversion to debt, they reply that practically everyone borrows to attend college, as if no one should refuse a common fate."
(For maximum effect, these passages should be read alongside this essay about class and college admissions.)
Childers finishes her book with a statement about welfare reform. She writes "It’s clear to me that I could develop from welfare brat to chip-on-the-shoulder chick to contributing dissident citizen because I had the good luck to come of age when many people in the United States approved of a war on poverty rather than what Herbert J. Gans calls ‘the war against the poor.’" This statement may well be true, but it isn’t supported by anything that’s come before in the book. While Childers is sympathetic to her mother’s struggles, she seems to have suceeded in spite of the parenting she received, not because of it.